Several months ago, I read an article about a college graduate who was still living at home, unable to find work. He was in despair because of his college loans and was forced to live with his parents. Mom and dad tsked and sympathized. Then the other details began to emerge. For example, this student had turned down jobs because they just didn't pay enough. His highest offer had been $45,000, and that was simply not worth it. After having his living supported while attending for school he wasn't paying for yet, he decided that he deserved better. I read several follow up editorials rightfully asking why this young man felt entitled to live for free in a nice, two-story home in a middle class neighborhood and turn down work. How is earning nothing better than earning a "measly" 45k per year with no experience in the field? How did the editor not realize how ridiculous it looked that their slant clearly intended to drum up pity for this man's plight? Therein lies our problem. Some people still don't get it.
And now, ladies and gentlemen, one of my favorite scenes from one of my favorite movies: Arthur. The lines are spoken by Sir John Gielgud, in the role of Hobson the butler.
"Please remove your helmet."
Smack smack. "You spoiled little bastard."
Smack. "So you feel unloved. Welcome to the world, Arthur, everyone is unloved."
Smack. "And incidentally, I love you."
We all need a wake up call now and then. This one is long overdue. We are spoiled little bastards. Normally, I try to refrain from mixing Dudley Moore with Ben Stein in polite company. The one time I saw Ben Stein in person, he said something that has stuck with me ever since. "We have people living below our poverty line who have air conditioning, a TV set in every room, guaranteed emergency medical care and a cell phone," he said. He is right. Make no mistake, I'm not saying that minimum wage is acceptable, or that the tax system is right or fair. I'm saying as a nation, most of us take a lot of luxuries for granted. We have bought the fairy tale that our standard of living will continue through no real effort or sacrifice on our part. We somehow trick ourselves into forgetting what poverty looks like. How can we complain about our health care system when tuberculosis, starvation and dying from a simple infection are still a threat for millions? Our law prevents an emergency room from turning anyone away, regardless of their ability to pay.
Compare that to Zimbabwe and tell me we have the short end of any stick.
We do have problems in our nation that have to be dealt with, and now. One of them needs to be our perspective. Our gift of a free education should empower us to be smarter than this. Due to the economy, some of us are learning how to make choices, budget, go without and work harder for the first time ever. In the long run, that's not a bad thing. As a culture, it may be our salvation. We've been spoiled children long enough. Now it is time to live like the rest of the world and take ownership of our problems, regardless of whether we feel they are fair, or of the solution looks a little too much like work. I think we are finally waking up and shaking off the stupor that let us fall into this trap. It's about time we recognize our assets and put our energy into what matters.
And incidentally, I love you.
Bon