Lesson Learned: Kat Von D Gets A Taste

Kat Von D was famously the rebound girl for Jesse James after his messy, infidelity-plagued 2010 divorce from Sandra Bullock. The L.A. Ink star and tattoo artist, 29, and the motorcycle mogul, 43, called it quits for good in September after a nixed engagement and a brief reconciliation.

Von D admits in her post that she thought James was vilified and unfairly depicted in the media.

"There was a time when I was confident and excited at proving the world wrong, because I believed so deeply in people's ability to change for the better," she writes.

"Although this was not a primary purpose in the relationship, I did feel like it would be a positive thing for those who judged Jesse solely based on what they read in tabloids, to see that change is always possible -- even in the people who seem hopeless," she admits.

And she knows what all her fans and detractors are thinking. "I deserve a big fat 'I told you so,' from everyone, and wish I didn't have to say, 'You all were more right than you'll ever know' but you were," she concedes. "Not to worry, I've gladly paid the consequences for every mistake I've ever made, but learned so much from each of them."

Though generalities such as "once a cheater, always a cheater" aren't fair (I know some reformed players) it is fair to be wary of someone with that history.  I thought my mother didn't get it when she taught me those lessons, it turns out I was a little slow getting a handle on people.  People can change.  But they have to want to change, first.  And when it turns out to be harder than they imagined, they have to want to change more than they want to let it go and return to their old habits.  This guy is a jerk and a serial cheater.  He'll get what is coming to him, but how many women will he dredge through misery first? 

The reaction to his cheating on KVD isn't nearly as dramatic as when he cheated on Sandra Bullock.  It's clearly apples and oranges, Bullock was a trusting spouse who took a chance, Kat Von D was an idiot who tried to show the world she was better than that.  He failed, and so did she.

What a bunch of jackasses.